tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11761373.post6625530005436296084..comments2023-05-19T10:45:51.868-05:00Comments on Fine Whine: Delusion, Illusion, Reason and RealityVirginia Llorcahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08354795459855491623noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11761373.post-2752698455094866862012-12-12T19:51:56.326-06:002012-12-12T19:51:56.326-06:00Well, thegirlinthehat said it best. My curiosity i...Well, thegirlinthehat said it best. My curiosity is piqued as well.<br /><br />You are an extraordinary writer. I know this because I've read your work. But, one thing remains true: there are many people in this world who should never have been parents. There's a whole generation or two of those out there. I only came to the realization that this was true when I became one myself and began reflecting back upon a childhood that wasn't always easy or wonderful. Love shouldn't be that hard to give or based upon conditions; should it? So. Channel your pain into your stories. Keep writing because you're good enough, sweetie. xo KOKatherine Owenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07328623729006907871noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11761373.post-37758521807351603072012-12-11T21:20:25.867-06:002012-12-11T21:20:25.867-06:00Powerful stuff here. I'm dying to know the tw...Powerful stuff here. I'm dying to know the two things. And look at that beautiful little girl. My god, how could you not love that little face. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11761373.post-6293696729122701302012-12-11T15:58:39.006-06:002012-12-11T15:58:39.006-06:00Virginia there is no rusty nail. There is a situat...Virginia there is no rusty nail. There is a situation so bad that if you don't learn to come to terms with the fact that you can't change it, you may destroy yourself and all the good work you've done on your own esteem. Your mother is no longer here, she can no longer say hurtful things but neither can she tell why she did what she did to you so all you can do is dismiss it, allow it to hurt you more, or say ENOUGH, and get on with your life having the knowledge that you know yourself and that your families image of you is not tainted by her.<br />You are your own person, not hers and you have a high value. It's her loss she didn't recognise it enough.<br />HugsDavid Prosserhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04421038270689370362noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11761373.post-42150909675261379962012-12-11T10:23:33.041-06:002012-12-11T10:23:33.041-06:00I'm sorry. I don't know what it is, but I...I'm sorry. I don't know what it is, but I do pray that you can find some sort of peace with it.<br /><br />My wife has some similar issues with her mother. Not nearly as bad as what you describe, but similar. Her mom doted on her younger brother, and even though he's the family fuckup, he still gets the lion's share of her attention and praise. Part of her horrible self esteem comes from her mom's own body image issues being projected on her daughter and shitty advice about trying to change yourself to please other people. And then there's all the fighting that happened just b/c they're both stubborn asses.<br /><br />I get the feeling that a lot of women have similar issues with their mothers. I'm a guy though, so I don't know dick. But I do know that our parents fuck us up. It's just some get more of it than others. And that's a pretty heavy burden for me to shoulder when I look at my little boy. That's a lot of responsibility.Jonathan Wilhoithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17330197977238770900noreply@blogger.com